11 Traits Of A Quality Woman

​11 Traits of A Quality Woman

“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives; the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”

There are good women everywhere, but this isn’t always apparent when we’re in the dating phase. In fact, dating one woman after another can lead someone to believe that quality women are few and far between. (The same can be said for dating men as well.)

If you’re “on the market,” it’s likely that you’ll meet and interact with all different types of women – and most of them are good-hearted. Sure, a few bad eggs will rear their not-so-lovely heads, and this too often leads to stereotyping. Intelligent as human beings are, many of us are rather clueless about the opposite sex.

In this article, we focus on some of the common traits of quality women. We hope that the content is entertaining and insightful; perhaps even useful.

HERE ARE 11 COMMON TRAITS QUALITY WOMEN SHARE:

1. SHE TAKES CARE OF HERSELF

A woman who takes pride in her herself garners immediate attention and respect. She’s responsible and accountable for what she does and doesn’t do and refrains from undeservedly blaming anyone for anything. This kind of woman is reliable, hard-working, and confident.

2. SHE’S COMFORTABLE IN HER OWN SKIN

That sort of woman knows her own self-worth and has the confidence to back it up. Though she may be insecure at times (she’s only human), she’s able to look into the mirror with pride. This woman is also intelligent enough to realize that her opinion about her appearance is the one that matters.

3. SHE HAS A STRONG SENSE OF INDEPENDENCE

In other words, she doesn’t NEED you – and this is a positive thing. An independent woman isn’t reliant on anybody for her personal needs. She hasn’t fallen for you just so that you could provide for her financial, mental or physical necessities. The woman has entered the relationship as an equal partner – and is willing to shoulder the burden at any time if need be.

4. SHE ISN’T SELF-ABSORBED OR SELF-CENTERED

Of course, a quality woman is not self-absorbed or self-centered. Quite the opposite, actually – she often gives more than she takes and puts others before herself. In a relationship, this woman’s selflessness is evident. She wants love, honesty, and respect for you.

5. SHE’S NOT INTERESTED IN DRAMA

Theatrics do not interest a quality woman – something that reinforces her high level of maturity. This woman will not play childish games, escalate a conflict, or seek to make you jealous. It’s not an understatement that she probably despises unnecessary drama as much (if not more than) you do.

6. SHE INSPIRES YOU TO BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF

A quality woman knows what you’re capable of becoming, and will encourage this without making a fuss about it. She desires you to reach your full potential because she both loves and respects you and your abilities.

7. SHE IS LEVEL-HEADED ABOUT CONFLICT

As a refined, mature, and intelligent woman, she understands the inevitability of occasional conflict. Something that separates a quality woman from the rest is that she remains logical and poised about the situation. She encourages and anticipates an amicable solution to whatever conflict may surface.

8. SHE’S OPINIONATED AND OPEN-MINDED

She is not afraid to make her opinions known and stick to her guns. She also possesses the knowledge to articulate her beliefs. Perhaps most important, she is tolerant of others and actively listens to what they have to say. In the context of a relationship, her opinionated yet open-minded outlook means she doesn’t require validation; nor does she expect you to appease her.

9. SHE’S REAL WHEN IT COMES TO INTIMACY

Quite simply, a high character woman isn’t bashful about intimacy. You’ll know when she’s ready for the next step, and she isn’t shy about stating what she is and isn’t comfortable with. A quality woman approaches intimacy as she does with many other things: with collectedness and maturity.

10. SHE ALWAYS SEEMS TO LEAVE A POSITIVE IMPRESSION

As mentioned, a quality woman possesses great character. She’s confident, smart, open, honest, and loyal. For these reasons and others, she never ceases to leave a good impression on people. Odds are most – if not all – of your family and friends admires and respects her.

11. YOU FEEL EXTREMELY FORTUNATE TO HAVE HER!

But of course! Why wouldn’t you feel lucky to have a woman with such qualities? You should also feel a bit of pride because a woman of this status wouldn’t date someone who didn’t “measure up.” If she’s willing to share the rest of her life with you, count your blessings.

(And don’t screw it up! Just speaking from experience here.)

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The Difference Between Love And Attachment

The Difference Between Love And Attachment

Love and attachment are connected to each other, but they do not mean the same thing. Sometimes even people do not realize if they love someone or are just very attached and dependent on them. It is really important to understand the difference and know in which kind of relationship are you in.

Love is pure and and positive and means caring for the other person and sharing your life with them. Of course there is some attachment in love as well and you want to be considered in your partner’s decisions. But attachment can be quite negative as well. This can get very unhealthy and obsessive.

Attachment means you emotionally and even physically need the other person in your life. You cannot function without them anymore. You believe you are meant to be together forever and this relationship and person become the only idea in your head.

On the other hand, love is softer and milder. It is not as aggressive. You want to be with the other person, but it is not like a drug to you. You can have your own life and think about your own things as well. Of course this does not mean that the person is not as important to you, it just means this is a healthy relationship, where both love each other in a lovely way. Love lasts longer than attachment.

Attachment can be quite obsessive and clingy. In addition to thinking about the other person all the time, you want them to be near you. You get mad when they make their own plans or even have to go to work. You become paranoid and do not trust anyone around them. You might think that the co-worker wants to have an affair with them, that their parents do not like you and are trying to get rid of you or that their friends are talking bad about you.

Love means that two independent people choose to be together. It means both can be on their own as well – have responsibilities, hobbies and activities to do and friend to spend time with. Love means trusting the person you are with. If they need to travel for work or just want to go out with their friends, you do not get upset nor jealous over it. Love means wanting the best for your other half and making life as easy and enjoyable for them as possible.

People, who are too attached are often scared. Scared that the relationship will fall apart and they will lose the person they need in their life. Attachment can often be blind as well, you do not see the other one’s flaws or behavior, you find excuses for everything and still believe that they are the god.

Love means giving your everything to make the relationship work, but when you see it does not, you still have the strength to walk away. Because even if you love another person, you should always love yourself more. With love you understand that no one is perfect and you either accept your partner’s mistakes or you don’t. Love also means communicating about things that bother you or make you unhappy, because most serious problems can be avoided in this way.

In conclusion, love is not easy, but it is real. Love means fighting, compromise and making up in the end. It means giving your time and energy to another person and receiving it back in the same way. Attachment is easy, because it is an illusion of love. It is not as deep nor as long-lasting as love is. Attachment can become dangerous and unhealthy. Love means seeing the situation realistically and letting go when there is no way of fixing it. Attachment is often blind and does not see a problem when there is actually many.

Love gives room and makes you happy. Attachment is poisonous and makes you scared, jealous and miserable. Think about the situation you are in and how does it makes you feel. And remember, always choose love

5 TYPES Of Men You Should Never Marry

5 TYPES Of Men You Should Never Marry

They say that marriage is not for the faint-hearted. But then, marriage is sweet if only one chooses the right partner but it can also be a hell if one makes a mistake of choosing a monster as their life partner.

While some men are heaven sent, some can give you a hard time in marriage and you should thus be very keen when choosing the man to marry. Be very careful and never make a mistake of marrying these five types of men;

A Violent Man

It is very sad that even in the 21st century, some women marry violent men and even stick in those violent marriages in the name of love. If he is violent, do not be deceived that he will change.

Lazy Man

Some men are too lazy to be married. If he is lazy, how will he feed your family? A lazy man deserves to live alone so that his laziness does not affect others.

The Flirt

If he is the type of man who flirts with each and every girl, do not make the mistake of marrying him. He will give you ulcers and not even marriage is likely to change him.

Mr Always Right

This type of man knows everything and he never listens. When corrected, he gets angry and at times violent. If a man thinks that you have nothing to offer and he cannot take your ideas, then he has no respect for you and you should never marry such a man.

Negative Type

Some men feel threatened by smart women and will do anything to pull you down. Such men will tell you of how you cannot succeed just because they fear you will be better than them financially. If he loves you, he should not feel threatened even if you earn more than him. Again, never marry this kind of a man

The Difference Between Love and Attachment

Love and attachment are connected to each other, but they do not mean the same thing. Sometimes even people do not realize if they love someone or are just very attached and dependent on them. It is really important to understand the difference and know in which kind of relationship are you in.

Love is pure and and positive and means caring for the other person and sharing your life with them. Of course there is some attachment in love as well and you want to be considered in your partner’s decisions. But attachment can be quite negative as well. This can get very unhealthy and obsessive.

Attachment means you emotionally and even physically need the other person in your life. You cannot function without them anymore. You believe you are meant to be together forever and this relationship and person become the only idea in your head.

On the other hand, love is softer and milder. It is not as aggressive. You want to be with the other person, but it is not like a drug to you. You can have your own life and think about your own things as well. Of course this does not mean that the person is not as important to you, it just means this is a healthy relationship, where both love each other in a lovely way. Love lasts longer than attachment.

Attachment can be quite obsessive and clingy. In addition to thinking about the other person all the time, you want them to be near you. You get mad when they make their own plans or even have to go to work. You become paranoid and do not trust anyone around them. You might think that the co-worker wants to have an affair with them, that their parents do not like you and are trying to get rid of you or that their friends are talking bad about you.

Love means that two independent people choose to be together. It means both can be on their own as well – have responsibilities, hobbies and activities to do and friend to spend time with. Love means trusting the person you are with. If they need to travel for work or just want to go out with their friends, you do not get upset nor jealous over it. Love means wanting the best for your other half and making life as easy and enjoyable for them as possible.

People, who are too attached are often scared. Scared that the relationship will fall apart and they will lose the person they need in their life. Attachment can often be blind as well, you do not see the other one’s flaws or behavior, you find excuses for everything and still believe that they are the god.

Love means giving your everything to make the relationship work, but when you see it does not, you still have the strength to walk away. Because even if you love another person, you should always love yourself more. With love you understand that no one is perfect and you either accept your partner’s mistakes or you don’t. Love also means communicating about things that bother you or make you unhappy, because most serious problems can be avoided in this way.

In conclusion, love is not easy, but it is real. Love means fighting, compromise and making up in the end. It means giving your time and energy to another person and receiving it back in the same way. Attachment is easy, because it is an illusion of love. It is not as deep nor as long-lasting as love is. Attachment can become dangerous and unhealthy. Love means seeing the situation realistically and letting go when there is no way of fixing it. Attachment is often blind and does not see a problem when there is actually many.

Love gives room and makes you happy. Attachment is poisonous and makes you scared, jealous and miserable. Think about the situation you are in and how does it makes you feel. And remember, always choose love.

FOUR WAYS TO PREVENT AND DEAL WITH PANIC RESPONSES

1. LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE

Whether you’re in a leadership role or you’re an employee who is overwhelmed with work, taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture can help minimize a panic response. Whether the reason is a fear of failure or a decline in numbers, taking a moment to pause and consider the whole situation can help make your next course of action logical, rather than made in a panicked state.

2. EVERYTHING IS TEMPORARY
If you are experiencing the physical symptoms of a panic attack – tight chest, dizziness, trouble breathing, racing heart – there are things you can do to alleviate the feeling. First, know that it will pass and that you’re not going to die. Even though it may feel life-threatening, panic attacks tend to last for only a few minutes before they’re over. Find a quiet place where you can focus on breathing and getting yourself to calm down.

3. BE A GOOD LEADER
If you are a leader and one of your employees is experiencing the beginnings of panic symptoms, or you suspect that they may be on the verge of a panic response, allow them to go somewhere to calm themselves down. Panic attacks can often be alleviated by simply removing the person from the situation that is causing the panic. Be understanding and sympathetic. Panic responses are involuntary.

4. FIND THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE ISSUE
When panic rears its ugly head, it can be tempting to just deal with the symptoms and move on. The best way to prevent panic is to find the cause and deal with it directly. This is true for both internal stress, as well as situations at work that can cause a company panic, such as dropping numbers or lost clients. Once you are able to identify the reason, it will be easier to rectify, which means your brain will no longer panic when an unforeseeable circumstance happens.
Panic in the workplace can be prevented, for both leaders and employees. Recognizing the signs and reasons to why panic happens in the first place is a major step in the right direction to minimizing the panic that all employees feel. Minimizing a panic response helps both the company and the employees, by helping the company run more logically and efficiently without rash decisions made in panic, as well as giving workers a more stress-free environment.

Five Reasons People Panic (And How to Avoid It)

Five Reasons People Panic (And How to Avoid It)

“There is no panic you can’t allay, no problem you can’t solve.”


Work can sometimes be stressful. This work stress, piled on top of any other daily stressors, can sometimes become overwhelming. Even when we think we have our whole lives under control, the stress can get too big for us to handle. That is when panic starts to set it. Panic is the brain’s fight-or-flight response to overwhelming stimuli.


It’s a primal part of the brain, and it’s used to help us know when something life-threatening is happening. Unfortunately, panic doesn’t discriminate between real and imagined danger. Work can be one of the worst places to experience a panic response. Oftentimes, when you’re in the office, there is an understanding that you’re to leave your outside life at the door. This can’t always happen, and is rarely the case for many people.


Panic can happen to both employees and leaders. It can be a physical response to stimuli, or it can be an emotional response to a problem that arises. Panic manifests itself in different ways, and it’s important to understand where it stems from so that it can be best combated. Why do people panic and what can be done to prevent it?


1. FEAR OF FAILURE

Nobody likes failure, especially in a work environment. Doing well at work means you get to keep your job. Doing poorly can mean losing it. Losing your job can mean losing your livelihood and your lifestyle. It’s an incredibly valid fear, and one that, once ignited, can cause workers to panic. Instead of focusing on all the ways something can fail or go wrong, focus on the positive outcomes. Be confident in your abilities. You didn’t get to your position by happenstance! Remind yourself of all the things you’re capable of.


2. OVERWHELMING WORK

Sometimes, work hands us more than we can handle. When you have three deadlines to meet and you’ve just been handed three more, the workload can be more than you can handle. This doesn’t reflect poorly on you. People work at different paces, and sometimes the people delegating the work don’t have a good enough grasp of how much things take to get done. When stress becomes overwhelming, it can cause a panic response. An easy way to alleviate the panic of overwhelming work is to communicate with your leadership team, and see if deadlines can be extended or work can be delegated.


3. OUTSIDE STRESS

Bringing your problems with you to the office can’t always be avoided. Oftentimes, when stress at home hits hard, it can be difficult to leave that at the door when you go to work. If there is an overwhelming amount of stress at home, it will carry over into the stressors at work, which can result in panic. Finding someone to talk to can help make sure your outside or internal stress isn’t brought into the workplace to make your job harder. A friend, family member, or therapist can help manage your personal and professional stress.



4. FINANCIAL DECLINE

Leadership can experience panic, too. Unexpected financial decline can cause an immediate panic mode. When leadership panics, it can manifest much differently than when someone is not in a leadership position. After all, there’s much more at stake for someone in a leadership role. When a company experiences financial decline, it can put more stress and expectation on leaders and managers. To prevent panic responses, finding the cause of the issue can make the next steps that should be taken crystal clear.



5. ASSOCIATING CERTAIN ACTIONS WITH BAD OUTCOMES


This can happen in our day-to-day lives, and it can also happen in our work environments as well. If a new process was implemented and it caused an unfavorable outcome, it can be easy to associate that process itself with the bad outcome, rather than the actions that lead to the bad outcome in the first place. Perhaps the process wasn’t properly implemented, or there weren’t enough steps taken to make it a success. Figure out what the issue was, and work to fix it rather than assume what the problem was.

Why People Attempt Suicide


Why People Attempt Suicide


People attempt suicide because they cannot bear their psychological pain and doubt it will ever get better, new research suggests.

Though that might sound intuitive, the new findings, published this month in the journal Suicide and Life-Threatening Behavior, contradict other hypotheses that suicide attempts are impulsive or a “cry for help.”
“Our findings really converged on two motivations that applied to everyone who was in our study: unbearable psychological pain and hopelessness that things would ever get better,” said study co-author E. David Klonsky, a psychologist at the University of British Columbia in Canada.
The findings could have implications for clinicians trying to identify which patients are most at risk for suicide, Klonsky said. Intense pain Past research has often focused on how
demographics or genetics may play a role in suicide risk, Klonsky said. For instance, some research has shown that children with autism have a higher suicide risk, and recent studies have found a sharp rise in suicide among baby boomers. Depression is also linked to suicide.

But such broad generalizations don’t provide useful guidance for clinicians to identify the patients who are most at risk.
To do so, researchers must first gain a better understanding of what makes people attempt suicide. Klonsky and psychology doctoral candidate Alexis May developed a questionnaire to understand suicide motivations, and then gave it to 120 people who had attempted suicide over the past three years in British Columbia.
Half of the people came from the general population and had a median age of 38 years, while the other half consisted of undergraduates with a median age of 21 years. Most had attempted suicide between one and three times, though at least one patient had made 15 attempts.
Overwhelmingly, people said they attempted suicide because of unbearable psychological distress they were hopeless would ever improve. Most had also been thinking about suicide for many years.
Contrary to the earlier theories, they did not show more impulsivity than the general population, and weren’t likely to say the attempt was a cry for help.
The findings suggest that measures such as putting nets under bridges can prevent suicide not because they thwart an impulsive attempt at suicide. Instead, such impediments prevent suicide for a few minutes, hours or days – just enough time for people’s mental states to incrementally improve until they can bear the pain a little longer and possibly get help, Klonsky said.
Fearlessness
Yet there may be more to distinguishing those who think about suicide and those who attempt it. Other research has shown that people suffering from depression who do not attempt suicide may be just as unhappy and hopeless, but more scared of the idea than those who make attempts.

“Everything about our biology is to avoid pain, avoid injury, avoid death,” Klonsky told LiveScience. “Even people who feel suicidal fortunately have a very hard time actually making an attempt.”
But people who attempt suicide are less fearful of pain and death. People who have a history of cutting themselves, for instance, may be less afraid of attempting suicide than those who do not. Other research has shown that becoming habituated to the idea, by simply thinking often about it or by, for instance, walking along a high bridge while considering suicide, may also make people more likely to carry out an attempt.
The new study also provides a tool to find those at risk because of psychological distress, hopelessness and a lack of fear of pain or death.
“We also think that a sense of connectedness to others – to family, to community, to friends, is an important protective factor that keeps people tied to life and wanting to live even if they have the hopelessness or the pain. 

Youth Violence Warning Signs

Youth Violence Warning Signs

There are common risk factors that can be youth violence warning signs. See a list of warning signs that a child may become violent, some risk factors that increase the chance a teenager may participate in violence, also warning signs your teen is a victim of violence.

Teens who commit acts of violence often display warning signs that their behavior is going to become violent. Parents, teachers, and other adults can look for these youth violence warning signs to know that a teen may need help before
he or she resorts to violence. Teens who are likely to act violently usually have trouble controlling their emotions. Some warning signs that a teen may become violent include:

  • Losing their temper
  • Threatening others
  • Vandalism or property damage
  • Using drugs or alcohol
  • Risky behavior, such as daredevil acts, sex at a young age, criminal activity
  • Making or talking about plans to hurt others or themselves
  • Intentionally hurting animals
  • Carrying weapons or being fascinated with weapons
  • A history of aggressive behavior or fighting
  • Belonging to a gang or wanting to belong to a gang
  • Problems with authority at school or legal problems
  • Not acknowledging other’s rights or feelings
  • Trying or wanting to control others
  • Withdrawal from others

Some risk factors and youth violence warning signs that increase the chance that a teen will become violent include:

  • Being the victim of a bully
  • Doing poorly in school or being uninterested in education
  • Exposure to violence or abuse
  • Feeling disrespected or ignored
  • Feeling alone

Not all teens who have these youth violence risk factors will become violent, and not all violent teens will have these risk factors. Because there is no single profile of a violent teen, these warning signs for teen violence can be a guide in determining if a teen needs help to prevent their involvement in teen violence, but people who know the teen should also be watchful for other behaviours that concern them.
Teens may also react with violence when exposed to violence either as a victim or as a witness. This can include exposure to violent events in the media, such as school shootings, teen suicides, or acts of terrorism. Some warning signs that a teen may be affected by violence include:

  • Loss of sleep
  • Loss of appetite
  • Anxiety
  • Frequently thinking about the event or having flashbacks

Seek help for teens who have been victims or witnesses of violence, especially if you notice any changes in the teen after the event. Teen violence can also be violence against self.
Some warning signs that a teen may be injuring him or herself, or contemplating suicide, include:

Hiding marks from teen cutting or other forms of self-injury. This may be done by wearing long sleeves or turtle necks even when it is warm, or coming up with excuses for injuries.

  • Suicide attempts
  • Talking or writing about death or suicide
  • Withdrawal, hopelessness, loss of interest in activities
  • Getting into trouble with authorities
  • Lack of control over emotions or behavior
  • Giving away prized possessions

Saying good-bye or talking about not being around

Always take signs of violence or suicide seriously and seek professional help for the teen displaying warning signs for teen violence.
School counsellors, medical professionals, and others trained in counseling can offer guidance and help you find a suitable professional to help a teen at risk for teen violence.
Teens who are at risk for violent behavior are also at risk for becoming victims of teen violence. Getting help for teens with these youth violence warning signs is essential for their own safety and the safety of others. Be especially alert after a teen has suffered a loss, such as a death or break-up, or after a tragic event in the community or world, especially suicides or other violent actions.

Why women talk less

Beautiful peace. Well written.

language: a feminist guide

This week on Newsnight, Evan Davis talked to three women about all-male panels—a subject made topical by the recent popularity of a tumblr set up to name and shame them. Why, he asked, are women so often un- or under-represented in public forums? Are they reluctant to put themselves forward? Are they deterred by the adversarial nature of the proceedings?

The women offered some alternative suggestions. Women don’t get asked, or if they do it’s assumed you only need one. Women aren’t seen as experts, unless the subject is a ‘women’s issue’. The age-old prejudice against women speaking in public means that any woman who dares to voice her opinions can expect to be deluged with abuse and threats.

But while all-male panels are obviously a problem, they’re only the tip of the iceberg. Just ensuring that women are represented on a panel does not guarantee their voices will…

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